The Great Gatsby: The Gatsby-Daisy Affair

At first, I pitied Gatsby and Daisy because of their unfortunate circumstance when Gatsby was end off to war, eventually leading to Daisy's marrying Tom Buchanan.  This whole situation really rends me of the novel Dear John by Nicholas Sparks, in which the boy and girl meet one summer, fall in love, and then the boy is drafted overseas, causing the eventual break in their relationship.  I also feel very bad that Daisy knows fully of her husband'd affair and is forced to stay with him regardless. However, Gatsby had lied to her about his social and wealth status anyway, so that would have surely cause some problems.  Also, the fact that Daisy has a daughter with Tom and decides to be irresponsible with Gatsby anyways seems a little sketchy.  On the subject of her daughter, I found it very odd that Gatsby was introduced to the daughter with Daisy and Tom both in the room while he and Nick visited the Buchanan household one day.  Does Gatsby have no heart that he doesn't feel like a horrible person and, there's no better word, a homewrecker when seeing this whole family together? He and Daisy's initial breakup was unfortunate, but it by no means justifies the breaking up of a family, at least in my mind.  I really don't think that Daisy wants to break up her family anyways.  She is delighted to see Gatsby again, and I think she gets a little confused, but in the end I think she would have chosen to keep her family together whether her husband discovered her and Gatsby's mischievous or not.  Her husband's affair and lack of appreciation for her probably fueled her affair as well. I also think that it was unfair of Gatsby to expect Daisy to all but drop her entire life and pick up where she and him had left off five years prior as soon as they were reunited, "He wanted nothing less of Daisy than that she should go to Tom and say: 'I never loved you'" (Fitzgerald, 109).  Fitzgerald does a very nice job of weaving such an intricate plot into The Great Gatsby with so many dilemmas and so many problems to be solved.